I think you all may be skirting his issue, assuming he is in
control of his own SQL server or something.
If he has a web account with SQL server (on a 3rd party) then
he doesn;t have direct access to the SQL server, just the DB info
as supplied by the application file.
The DSN and USER/PASS are found in that application file, but
it is assumed you know what tables are in the database and know how
to access, create, manage those tables. The server address is
actually stored in the CF Administrator; and if you are on a 3rd
party hoster, you likely will not have access to that.
No 3rd party software is going to help you acess the SQL
server DB for your site unless you have that server address.
Does your hoster supply a control panel for your website? If
yes, then you can likely find the SQL server information in that
area. If not, they could have sent you the information in an email
or something. You should contact them directly to ask them how to
access the SQL server remotely. They may simply only allow
creation, deletion, and management of the SQL database from within
CF code itself, which you would have to know how to program.
When you do find out the SQL server address and database
name, just use the USER/PASS info along with some type of interface
such as the SQL Express Admin software supplied by MS (
http://www.microsoft.com/downloads/details.aspx?FamilyID=fa87e828-173f-472e-a85c-27ed01cf6b02&Displa...)
or even via MS Access ADP (
if you have MS Access)
The key is to first find out that server address, which they
should have supplied.
Of course, if you actually run your own CF and SQL setup, I
have to ask why you can't figure out where all that information is.