I downloaded adobe flash on safari mac bur can't find it to enable the flash
Moving this discussion to the Installing Flash Player forum.
Flash Player installer file is saved to the default downloads folder, usually, Users/YourUserID/Downloads, unless changed in the browser, or saved somewhere else.
After Flash Player is installed, it is a browser plugin, thus it's not found in /Applications directory or elsewhere.
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