YOUR UPDATES ARE NOT WELCOME! THEY ARE KILLING WORKFLOW AND PRODUCTION!
STOP DOWNLOADING UPDATES!
You are just making yourself unhappy.
Don't know what operating system you are using or what experience you have had with Lightroom Classic. I'm using Windows 10, and have installed every update and upgrade that has been offered and have had no problems with any of them. So I don't know what problems or difficulties you are experiencing. If you don't want the updates that come along then don't install them. It really is that simple.
You have control over when to update. If you are in the middle of a project - it's unwise to quit the application and run an update. The update can't run if you have the app open.
And as others have mentioned - If you have your settings to Auto-update you give up that control. In addition to turning Off Auto-update for your creative cloud apps you may want to turn it off on Windows as well. That way you can decide if the release has enough bug fixes or new features to warrant updating. Auto-update as you've experienced doesn't have any other intelligence behind it. It simply updates the software and almost always causes problems with other applications that have their own separate release cycle - they are never in sync because they are different companies.
>> If I have to pay monthly I want it my way, not their way.
So disable auto-updates in Creative Cloud and Windows and you'll have it your way.
Sounds like you have Auto update turned on in the CC desktop app.
Click the cog wheel top right to open preferences, and disable it in the Apps tab.
And go to the Windows Update settings and turn off the auto-updates there, too.
will this not end the notifications and updates from other applications?
I am also frustrate since moving to lightroom CC. At evey update I lose my preferences: the import is back on the C drive wen I set it to be to an external drive. My bacatlog backup changes back to the C drive when I back it up on a different drive (having the catalog and the backup on the same volume is not what i want!) with the latest update , the catalog format has changed so we need another conversion. During this conversion the procedure expects the default name for the catalog but this name has already been changed at one of the last V10 update. I do not want constant changes. It is not a toy but a production tool.
You can disable Auto-update (A-u) as demonstrated in screenshot by Per Bernsten above. With A-u disabled you should find that a dialog appears at start of manual update process asking whether you wish to keep the old preferences or remove them. You should choose to keep them. Typically, double dot updates (e.g. 10.1.1) keep the old preferences file by default.