I am trying to get my laptop Lightroom and iPhone one to sync. The phone one has the photos I want and is associated with the email Adobe sent. But I can use that email to log in to Lightroom on laptop
I see the email ID you used to post for help is subscribed to the Photography plan. However, I see no indication that you've signed into this same account using the Lightroom mobile app that is available from the Apple or Google app stores.
It would seem you are signed into Lightroom using a different email address than the one you've used for the Photography plan and the fourms here. Since you are not signed into the same Lightroom account as your desktop, your phone is not able to sync as expected. You need to sign in on your phone using the current account/email address.
You mentioned that the phone has the photos you want. Do not uninstall the app, or this will delete any unsynced images. You should export any images in this other account back to your camera roll, then sign into the correct account that will sync to your desktop, and re-import your images from your camera roll into Lightroom, into the correct paid account.