If you are simply using built-in CF functionality, you are not liable for the inclusion of ExtJS into the Adobe product. Your CF license covers third-party libraries that are explicitly used by CF. I suspect that the Sencha attorney is simply using a crawler to find out what sites have ExtJS libraries, and he isn't differentiating between one site or another.
I am not a lawyer, and therefore I am not your lawyer. But just because you're not a lawyer doesn't mean you can't provide a response. I would recommend that you send him a brief reply, along the lines of this. Of course, replace "Company X" with the appropriate name. Chances are, you won't get any response at all, but that's ok.
"Company X is a licensed user of Adobe ColdFusion, and Adobe has licensed ExtJS along with other third-party libraries for use with ColdFusion. Here is a link to the Adobe ColdFusion license agreement for your reference:https://www.adobe.com/content/dam/acom/en/legal/licenses-terms/pdf/ColdFusion-2016.pdf
https://www.adobe.com/content/dam/acom/en/legal/licenses-terms/pdf/ColdFusion-2016.pdf
Please acknowledge your receipt of this email, along with your statement of understanding that Company X is within its rights to use ExtJS as a licensed third-party library as described in the linked ColdFusion license agreement."
Dave Watts, CTO, Fig Leaf Software