Usage of wide gamut for editing
Hello, I am new here and I hope it's the right place for my topic!
I will try to keep it as short as possible.
Basically, I want to know what exactly adobeRGB gets used for and if a wide gamut monitor is necessary in my case.
Currently I am trying to understand a former ebook about colormanagement and what went wrong on my picture. I recently bought a wide gamut monitor (SW240) and thought all my problems will be solved. Or that I'll at least improve my workflow.
Shortly about my current setup: My monitor (BenQ SW240) is paired with my windows11 PC and profiled to its native colourspace with a SpyderX Pro. I shoot RAWs with my camera and edit them in Camera Raw/Photoshop.
I have this picture of a pit viper and I want to edit it. In Photoshop and camera raw, I used AdobeRGB as my working space and made my changes so the image appeals to me. Now I export it as a JPG and convert it to sRGB to be able to upload it to IG.
-> The picture looks terribly unsaturated.
As of this, I started to question the whole CMM topic again and I think, I basically understand what went wrong.
I believe this picture uses more highly saturated colours that only get visible with a wide gamut monitor and after converting it to sRGB it looses these colors as they will be cut after sRGB maximum saturation of (255/0/0) for example.
Now I am quite confused about basically two things.
First of all, why is the sRGB picture looking exactly like the AdobeRGB file on my monitor but not on my phone? Shouldn't the picture look less saturated on my monitor after converting it to sRGB and looking at it within colormanaged software? If I use a softproof in photoshop for sRGB it looks desaturated like it does on my phone. I converted it while exporting via photoshop and I have both options activated (Convert to sRGB - embed colour profile).
And the second topic:
What exactly does adobeRGB gets used for? I understood that it is a wider gamut that includes a lot of printing and monitor colours. But why would I use it as a working space? As long as my monitor supports wide gamut colours I will be able to see printing colours, so why wouldn't I use the printers profile as a working space to only see the colours that can be represented within this profile instead of editing in adobeRGB and converting afterwards? Wouldn't I get the same result as it was with my pit viper picture, while the cyan colours are shown correctly but the greens (for example) will be more saturated within my adobeRGB edit but can't be respresented on my print, resulting in creating more problems again?
Also, is adobeRGB useful for digital media in any case other than being shown on wide gamut monitors? As far as I understand this, if I edit on a wide gamut monitor with adobeRGB as my working space and I'll look at the result on a different wide gamut monitor it will basically look the same if both monitors are calibrated correctly. But as soon as a sRGB device joins it will look different and less saturated. This makes editing one master file and converting to sRGB obsolete as I'll have to edit twice again if I want control over my pictures, meaning one edit for wide gamut monitors and one edit for sRGB devices (and one edit for prints if I want to). Am I correct?
So once again, are there any scenarios where it's useful to use adobeRGB as a working space? It seems to me that, while having the possibility to look at the colours of the full adobeRGB gamut it will always be limited to smaller working spaces to gain more control over the end result.
And now the ultimate question: Isn't it quite unnecessary to buy a wide gamut monitor if you're not printing by yourself? I can see it being useful for looking at the colour profile of the printer on your monitor and edit within this colourspace but if that happens so rarely, isn't it enough to buy a good sRGB monitor that will be able to show ~80% of adobeRGB to have at least some kind of control but will provide other advantages such as resolution and size?
It seems to me that every photographer now needs to use an Eizo wide gamut monitor. At least everyone recommended to get one but I can't find any advantages if it's not about certain printing techniques.
It's a lot to ask and I'm very grateful to everyone taking the time and reading this. Maybe someone can help me or provide me some sources to read into these topics as I'm not only in trouble but also quite interested in CMM.

