first post. flashplayer update doesnt agree with google chrome and I cant play my game. its running too slowly. i have disabled accelerator hardware, deleted flash browser and cache as advised but still not fixed. tried to disable ActiveX but cant

Hi  first post.  flashplayer update doesnt agree with my laptop.  windows vista XP.  i am on googlechrome.   i play games and its running too slowly.  its like someone else has control of the mouse and it has at least a 30seconds time lag.  the game i play (family barn) says its the flashplayer update.  I have disabled the hardware acclerator, deleted flash browser history and cache and changed browsers.  firefox, safari and opera wont allow family barn to open and internet explorer and chrome running too slow.  have tried to disable ActiveX but cant find it.  have been playing this game for years, never been this bad before. 

grateful for any help

thanks

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