Flash player failing in the middle of games on several sites

Also, in order to give you a useful answer, it would be helpful to start with a clear and concrete description of the problem.

See the following guide:

https://forums.adobe.com/thread/1195540

It tells me to go into security and take off active x and then disable flash

What is 'it'?  What tells you to do this?

Why?????? And how do I fix it!

Most major browser's disable Flash by default, forcing users to enable it on a per-site basis.  For IE and Edge on Windows 10, see:

• Enable Flash Player for IE on Windows 10.
• Enable Flash Player for Edge on Windows 10.

If you're not being prompted to enable Flash, it's quite possible the content is not coded to IE/Edge's Flash detection mechanisms.

Please provide a direct link to content that exhibit's the behaviour so that we can attempt to reproduce.

Many games won't play without Flash. But Flash is considered a security risk by some, so you will be advised to turn it off. When you do that, you won't be able to play Flash games. If you understand the risk (really understand the risk, including to your money and identity) you can turn it back on.