flash player says its disabled, i enabled it and still wont work on app.

Also, you might check our instructions for enabling Flash in your browser, just to make sure you're not missing a step: 

https://helpx.adobe.com/flash-player.html

The alternative is to experiment with a couple different browsers, but also, definitely complain to Arlo support about the bad experience.  The more support traffic they get, the more likely they are to prioritize the work.

This is an issue with arlo app, not Flash Player.

All browsers block/disable Flash by default, and have been for quite some time.  The browsers rely on the content's Flash detection script to detect if the content requires Flash, and if so, to prompt the user to enable/allow Flash.  If the content isn't coded correctly, the browser doesn't know to prompt you to allow/enable Flash.  This isn't a new issue with arlo, as there are many posts on here, but either way, arlo needs to fix their content. They actually need to migrate away from Flash as Flash is going away at the end of the year.

Alternatively, you can try a different browser to see if you get better results.