I don't know where to get an flv.swf file to embed my videos

I have been embedding my videos on my website using a player from a third party website. This is the code I use on my web pages:

<!-- START abc.com -->

<embed src="http://abc.com/flvplayer.swf?file=http://xyz.com/l254.flv&autoStart=false" width="210" height="320" quality="high" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" pluginspage="http://www.macromedia.com/go/getflashplayer"></embed>

<!-- END abc.com -->

My flv movies are stored on xyz.com and the original player was on abc.com. The site abc.com is now defunct and so my videos don't play. I would like to upload my own .swf player to play my flv movies. The only control needed on the web page is a Play button. I have been browsing the internet and I don't know which is the correct player to get. My preference is not to have to put anything in the head tags of the site that houses the player unless that is necessary.