i'm a bit embarassed to admit my problem was a simple one, screen resolution had the tab below the screen. even hovering over the edit window and tapping 'down' and cycling through the bottom back to the top of the list, you could never 'see' preferences. i'm on a cintiq companion, and higher res is somewhat hard to read so i set it for a bit bigger icons, thus my problem was self inflicted.
i still say the new 'features' are frustrating, 'transform' being particularly annoying. but now i've set everything back to where i like it.