I can't quite make out what you're actually doing here, but I do get the feeling you're overcomplicating this and maybe changing settings that aren't relevant and you don't need to worry about. When people have problems with monitor calibration and profiling, it's usually because they do too much.
Take a breath. This is really simple.
The software measures the monitor in its current state and writes a profile describing that behavior. Done, there's nothing more you need to do. That profile is automatically set up in Windows as the default profile for that monitor.
When Photoshop starts up, it gets that default monitor profile from Windows. Photoshop then uses this profile in a standard profile conversion, from the document profile, and into the monitor profile. This happens on the fly, as you work. These corrected numbers are sent to screen, thus representing the file correctly.
Now, if the monitor's behavior changes, regardless of how that change happens, you need a new profile as the old one is no longer valid. So you can either change profile in the OS yourself, or the calibration software can do it for you. Either way, Photoshop needs to restart so it can pick up the new profile.
Note that the monitor profile does not need to match any standard color space! Set the software to "native", not an Adobe RGB emulation. That just restricts the monitor's capabilities.
Just make sure these three components are present and correct, and the file has to display correctly.
a document profile embedded in the file (sRGB, Adobe RGB, ProPhoto).
a monitor profile that is a correct description of the monitor's actual and current behavior.
color managed software that correctly converts from one into the other, and outputs those corrected numbers to screen.
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