Trying to re-create a previous photoshop gradient...

Im trying to reproduce a gradient I created several times in the last year but each time the result is too hard, whatever I do i just cant find a way to get the result i need - any ideas... Im posting screen shots of what I need to do and what is happening....

The top is the default result and the bottom is what i need -

Any suggestions gratefully received! (I will save it in future)