You need a script for it. But in order to write the script you first need to find out the "name" of the comment.
To do that you need to select the comment by clicking it, then open the JS Console (Ctrl+J), and enter the following code into it and press Ctrl+Enter:
selectedAnnots[0].name
It will print out something like this:
1f7dc8a2-7702-4bca-a7f7-8ee7bb664c53
Copy that string and enter it into the following code, as the Mouse Up event of the button:
var a = this.getAnnot(event.target.page, "PASTE COMMENT NAME HERE");
a.hidden = !a.hidden;
That's it. After you do that each time you click the button the highlight will appear or disappear.