how to select on psd upgrade

This update is insanely confusing.

I do not know where to find the old selection tool - that when you touched an object

it was surrounded by selection "dashes."

I think I may have inadvertantly lost it somewhere.  What I have now is a "quick" selection tool

that does not make visible dashes around it when the object is touched by this tool.  So they can't

be feathered.

There is also an object selection tool that won't select the object I want on the layer that I am

trying to select.  It decides what the object is.

Why in God's name did I upgrade?

Any clear easy to read and follow comments will be most welcome.

This is not the only problem.

I think they created a "smart" photoshop, rather than one that is usable by humans.