Button appearance not transferring from Acrobat Pro to Reader version

In the prepare form area, I've created rollover text with buttons. Under preferences>forms, while in Pro, I've clicked off the show focus rectangle. I've also changed highlight color Darker gray) to match document background. When opened by others with Reader, their prefs default to another highlight color. I cannot get the appearance to match. I can't ask all users accessing the doc to change their prefs just because my doc didn't retain the appearance highlight color properties and the show focus rectangle is showing. What am I missing?