Hi kitkat23,
You may use button and add action like play pause resume and stop to the PDF.
To do that please follow these steps:
1) Place video on the docuemnt
2) Create Button
Use the Pen tool or a drawing tool, such as the Rectangle tool or Ellipse tool, to draw the button shape. If necessary, use the Type tool to add text to the button, such as “Play” ,“Pause" , "Resume"and "Stop".
Highlight object say text frame that says "Play" and got to choose Window > Interactive > Buttons
In Buttons and Forms menu
Choose
Type as Button
Event as On Click
Then click + in front of action and choose Video

It will automatically select video placed on document.
then choose Play from Options

And you can do the same for "Pause" , "Resume"and "Stop".
For more details and options on buttons you may check below mentioned link.
Add interactive buttons in InDesign
Regards
Srishti