Currently being moderated - it's getting old

I do realize that the whole moderation thing is a knee-jerk reflex due to an ineffective anti-spamming framework. 

HOWEVER, there must be a way to set it so that:

a) users who have had an account for more than a year aren't subjected to having their posts moderated; and

b) using an '@'mention doesn't count as a link; same for links that point to forums.adobe.com.  You have to moderate a message that points back to your own domain???

V/r,

^_^