How do people use these forums and stay sane?

I used to occasionally dip into these forums, so not expereinced any "issues" but posting more regularly is driving me nuts. I cannot quote by selecting text then pressing Reply (expected behaviour), when I click quote on an empty reply box, the whole post is quoted. I tried copying text, pasting, then quoting but again the whole post is quoted. When I then delete some quoted text not relevant to my reply, my reply is wrapped as a quote! Sticky posts are always sticky, even on page 2, 3. Huh? I only need to see them page one.

1. Have two quote buttons: one for whole post, one for pasted text in a reply.

2. When text is quoted, end quote when user presses Return (ie., numbered/bulleted behaviour).

3. Show sticky posts only on first page of a topic.

4. Speed up load times. Takes aeons to load main page of Photoshop Ecosystem forum in Safari (I have fast broadband). Even going back, a page already viewed, takes aeons.