Hi @Hektorrr,
Thanks for sharing the details and the video. Could you try disabling GPU Performance from Illustrator Preferences > Performance and check if that minimizes the issue with the links not updating? Also, please confirm if both your PSD and AI files are stored locally on your Mac and not on an external drive or a cloud‑synced folder.
Additionally, please try testing the issue in macOS Safe Mode to isolate any delays caused by third‑party extensions or background software: https://adobe.ly/4oiRYBD
Looking forward to hearing your observations after these checks.
Abhishek