Malcom, Thank You for going to the effort to show that screen shot, before I go about setting up paragraph styles, I want to see what was missing in my InDesign. As you can see, you have a lot more going with your panel at the top of the page. Something is not checked or included, but when I click on the far right icon I do not see which choice I should make to include the full set of choices you have showing. Here is my 'top of screen' panel...

Hi Ken,
On the very left of your screenshot, you can see two icons - paragraph and character. At the moment, the character one is selected, so your control panel is showing options for that. If you click the paragraph icon below it, you will find the spacing controls that you want. It could be that you have a smaller screen that I do, because mine shows both character and paragraph options all the time.
Do pay attention though to paragraph styles. You can format your paragraphs using the control panel, select some of your paragraph text and then make a new paragraph style based on the selection. I know that we all go on about styles, and they might take a bit of getting used to, but they will save you heaps of time in the long run.
Good luck,
Malcolm