how do i create custom bullet points and number lists "please see image"

Create paragraph styles. In the styles, you create a named list and make your styles part of the list.

You don't mention if the first number (4 in your example) is coming from a heading or chapter number. It would make a difference on how you set up the code. 

Adobe help: https://helpx.adobe.com/indesign/using/bullets-numbering.html