Nikon 810 Tethered to Lightroom Classic - to get RAW format

Hello, can someone help me.  I truly am struggling with this.  

I have the Tethering cable connected to my MACPro (MacOS Montery 12.4) and my Nikon D810.  I was told I had to have my secondary slot on my D810 indicating or selected as RAW and JPG to get the image transferred to my laptop/folders.  However, I am getting only the JPG images on my laptop, and I need the RAW format in full size on my laptop.  For some reason the JPG is only 11 mgs when the RAWs are generally 35-40 mgs.  

Hopefully, someone can tell me what I am missing, or not configuring correctly.  

Really anxious over here. Thank you. Ana