Direct Selection tool used with the gradient mesh

Dear Madam/Sir,

I have recently purchased new versions of Adobe illustrator and photoshop and
I am basically pleased with the software, but with certain very serious reservations
about your latest editions.

I am an amateur digital artist, but I suspect that the particular difficulty that
I am experiencing with the direct selection tool, when editing a gradient mesh
object is objectionable to professionals as well.

The problem is that I might spend several hours effectively colour tracing a
photograph and need to see what I am doing to the mesh and yet when
I use the direct selection tool on mesh points, the mesh ‘wires’ are disappearing
from view.

On occasion I might edit the mesh with the opacity set to zero for up to an hour
before I look at the actual gradient transitions but I simply cannot do this very
easily with your current edition of Illustrator.  I can see that you can use the gradient
mesh tool itself to do this but that you cannot select multiple points in the mesh
with it and that you run the risk of adding rows or columns to a very detailed area
of your design which you might not immediately notice.

I think at the very least, you should be able to make the mesh visible or invisible
in ‘preferences’  when using the direct selection tool, which as far as I can see is impossible.

I attach an example relevant to the points above and apologise if I am in error
and that you can somehow adjust your direct selection too/gradient mesh views.

I look forward to your resolution.

Yours faithfully,

Guy Abbott